Love is egoless. There is no agenda, no bodily satisfaction, there is no goal, there is no end of true love. As everybody has a soul, the true love is possible only and only without end.
Soul is not born, it does not die. Bodily satisfaction is not love. It is only passion. Temporary passion. As passion, ignorance and even goodness are temporary matter attributes, modes or gunas, all materialistic things, thoughts, all matter is temporary. To even other entities on other planets, galaxies... Mind is also subtle body, product of attachment to matter. We are servants, our goal is to serve. Was Jesus true god servant? hmm. I think it was recently posted here in mists.
It is our goal to realize and learn what is temporary and what is eternal, our goal is to discern reality from illusion and spirit from matter. Anything we can hear, smell, taste, see or touch relates to the matter. Mind creates many affairs related to those senses, but this is not what we have to serve, not to our senses. Not to ego who is confused by those senses.
This is our true goal. We need not to be naive and use given to us intelligence not to be passionate to create, but use our intelligence to recognize all the faults of materialism.
Love is not casual thing as many say or think. Love is self driven realized responsible commitment.
There is nice article about love.
Lets go Exploring Love.
What is love? Where is it? And how can we get it?
Love, we are told, is all we need. It is the subject of numberless books,
songs, movies, conversations; it is meditated on, longed for, and bemoaned;
it is a source of anguish, ecstasy, and everything in between.
Yet despite our ability today to acquire many things, love,
any love - or loving relationships with our friends, spouses,
children, parents, even god- often eludes us.
Why? Let us explore the nature of true love - the warm, deep,
personal, and profoundly tender feeling of affection. Why,
even though we crave it, does it bewitchingly escape us?
True Love's Characteristics
True love is not casual but is an act of will that requires the
lover's concentration on and commitment to the beloved - ("mind attached").
In other words, love is about my beloved's- and not my own- thoughts,
feelings, and desires. True love is selfless. One who would love is
concerned with and alert to the beloved in every sphere of life.
In fact, one who would love sees everything in relation to the beloved
and sees the beloved everywhere. This does not mean losing oneself
in the infatuation of love, but finding oneself. Those who truly love
understand their own identity ("realized knowledge"), and they act in
accord with that understanding.
True love can be practiced only in freedom- that is, when the one
who would love is not driven by selfish desire and thus controlled by
lust, greed, envy, anger, or any any kind of personal ambition.
Action in freedom has got some meaning, but when we are not free-
when we are in the clutches of illusion ("maya")- our so called freedom
has no value.
Those who would love are selfdisciplined in all aspects of life
because a lack of self-discipline means slavery to sensual demands.
While contemplating the objects of the five senses, a person develops attachment
for them, from that demand to others arises, and from lust anger arises.
From anger, complete delusion arises, and from delution bewilderment of memory.
When memory is bewildered, intelligence is lost, and when intelligence is
lost one falls down again into the material pool.
Without self-discipline, without sense of control, there is no freedom,
and without freedom we are driven by passion, not by love.
On the other hand, love keeps self-discipline from becomming dry and budensome.
So, self-discipline allows love to develop, and that love keeps self-discipline
fresh rather than hackneyed or touched by eather pride or resentment.
Next, true love is unmotivated ("causeless"). One who would love gives
pleasure to the beloved without conditions, without expectation of return,
without calculating "Am I getting as much as I'm giving?"
True love is also patient, determined, enthusiastic, and unceasing "unbroken");
it desires the good of the beloved from whatever source that good may come.
And it is an act of faith: One who would love trusts the beloved. He is in
supreme place in the "lover's" heart.
Whoever is of little faith will also be of little love.
These qualities of true love appeal deeply to us because we want to love
and be loved to this true love standard. But in the name of love in our loveless world
self gratification rules as if you please my 5 senses, my self-image, and my self-esteem,
I may "love" you. Many "loves" fail for deep and lasting connections. Selfish desire
destroys our objectivity and chains us to society's massive, pervasive and degrading
How can we be free of those "loves"? Each one of us is called upon to become free,
to make a fundamental shift from selfishness to selflessness, from me-centered to
they-centered life. Then we will no longer wonder if we are capable of true love
or if such love even exists.
from Vedic insights